Forgiveness is a concept that is widely misunderstood. For many, the old phrase “forgive and forget” would be their definition – especially the “forget” part. In reality, it couldn’t be further from the truth. Forgiving has nothing to do with forgetting.
First of all, the motivation to forgive should be to set yourself free. Free from the attachment to the pain that is holding you back. When you feel the hurt of being mistreated in some way, and hold a grudge against the person causing the hurt; you are the person most affected by it.
Very often, the perpetrator is not even aware that they have caused you pain! They are oblivious. When you forgive, the other person doesn’t even have to know that you have forgiven them. This is for you. Forgiveness takes place inside you.
Something else to consider, is that whatever wrong has been done, the cause of your pain is nine-times-out-of-ten more about the perpetrator’s failing, or misunderstanding than it is about you. There is some aspect of their life that led them to cause your pain. We all have our demons. Understanding this often makes it easier to forgive.
So forgive those people who hurt you, and then forgive yourself for allowing it to happen. Don’t—I repeat, don’t try to forget. You can, and should, learn and grow from the experience of forgiveness. Look for the positive, the lesson. It is there. Use it to make yourself stronger and better.
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Do you have anyone you need to forgive so you can move on with your life and happiness?
What are your thoughts on the power if forgiveness?
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